Most of us experience the build up of tension at times in significant relationships, whether it is with an intimate partner, family members, our work colleagues or in important social relationships. Depending on our sensitivity in these relationships we can have an automatic response that shifts our focus from the positive aspects of the relationship to focusing on our differences, an “ I’m right and you’re wrong” attitude and blaming the other for the problem. It is usual to attempt to work through tension with the help of friends and other non-professionals.
What I believe after 25 years of practice is how helpful an objective third party can be for the individual, couple and family. It is my experience that often people wait too long to seek professional help. What I offer is a different way of thinking about a problem plus tools and interventions that can help loosen the relationship tension.
My experience as a therapist extends to individuals who have suffered a traumatic experience in their lives. The trauma can be from childhood physical and sexual abuse, domestic violence and workplace harassment and bullying. I also work with veterans who suffer from the symptoms of PTSD